When a family chooses to cremate their loved one, they are faced with just as many questions and decisions as those who choose to bury. All of the legal requirements surrounding the end of a human life still apply and whoever is next of kin must address these legalities in a timely and orderly manner. The loved ones of the deceased must also make decisions related to disposition. The most customary choices are earth burial or cremation.
If cremation is chosen, the next of kin must decipher the needs of the circle of mourners and arrange the most efficacious service elements relative to their recovery. Some families are widespread and do not need a formal selection of service options traditionally associated with death, some; however, do. Additionally, there will be families that fit somewhere in the middle, who will pick and choose certain services while foregoing others.
Just as with burial, there are limitless service options available to cremation families. Most families will select from one of three traditional cremation service options; however, there are those who march to a different drummer, who may creatively design a service unlike any other.
The three most common cremation services selected by American families are as follows:
Traditional Cremation Service
A Traditional Cremation Service is suited for families who desire the traditional services associated with American deaths, however, desire to impose a smaller impact on the environment. Therefore, their services will encompass a visitation, viewing, or wake (requiring embalming,) a chapel, sanctuary, cathedral, funeral home, or other location funeral service, a traditional casket (which can be rented for additional savings), as well as, traditional stationery items. At the conclusion of services, rather than burying their loved one’s body, they cremate. The final disposition of cremation allows the family to retain the cremains at home, sprinkle, or bury the cremains of their loved one. Even earth burial of cremains has a smaller impact on space availability than the burial of an intact human corps.
Cremation with Memorial Service
Cremation with Memorial Service is suited for families who do not want their loved one's body displayed for viewing. With this option, a funeral type service is held at a church, funeral home, or other location, however, without the decedent’s body present. This is known as a memorial service. A memorial service may be delayed until after the cremation has been accomplished so that the urned cremains may be placed at the front of the service venue; however, the memorial can commence without the cremains as well. Sometimes, in the interest of time, the family will place a representation of the decedent at the front of the service. Items such as a large portrait, items of meaning, or even an empty urn are chosen for this purpose. In this type of service, if the cremains are present, the family may choose to travel to the cemetery at its conclusion to bury or sprinkle the cremains in the final resting place.
Direct Cremation
Direct Cremation is usually chosen in cases of indigent, pauper, or persons without living relatives or friends. It is an option without any type of commemoration or memorialization services. This type of service is not generally chosen by families as it does not offer healing services or opportunities for the living. This option is considerably lower in cost than any other.
As cremation becomes ever more popular, consumers are realizing a rise in its cost. This is largely due to the regulations and requirements placed upon funeral homes and their directors through state legislation and the Federal Trade Commission. As earth burial ceases to be the primary service option for Americans, cremation will see additional regulations, requirements, and restrictions come into play. As the funeral profession must continue maintaining mandated properties and equipment, incorporate additional requirements related to the increasing number of cremation cases, and invest in new equipment to accommodate consumer movement, the cost to consumers will be reflected in their service options.
With fewer families observing traditional means of memorialization and in the interest of legacy, history, and genealogy, I recommend that a memorial marker of granite, other stone, or metal be placed in a bonafide cemetery with the appropriate vital information for each cremated loved one. I fear that after a generation or two of human remains being misplaced, misidentified, forgotten, or sprinkled in nondescript places across the globe, that the cremains and vital information of our loved ones will be lost to future generations if this important step is omitted.
The loss of one’s heritage is the loss of one’s identity.